To be A Groovy Single

My Choice!

It's been my dream to become a wife and a mother. And my ambition in life is to become a shopping wife, a shopping mommy. But, obviously, God has other plans for me...

I remember, a few years back, I told my best friend, Laya if at 12 midnight of January 1, 2004 and she's not yet married or doesn't have a baby yet, she will be an old maid for life. I guess, I spoke too soon - - Today, Laya is a happy Mama to almost 10 month old Bien Miguel and here I am, still joyfully single - - yahoo!!!

In the beginning, it was so hard for me to accept that at age 29 (and will be turning 30 in 6 months), I am not hitched yet or how come nobody is dating me (hindi naman ako pangit!) But as the day goes by, I realize that the Lord wants me to accomplish something and that's what I am trying to discover everyday of my life...

I know that God wants nothing but the very best for each of us. He wants all of us to reach our full potential, whatever it maybe and yes, it is different for everyone. All of us must remember that God will give us what He thinks is BEST for us.

As I walk in the "single's" lane, believe me, I am enjoying every moment of it. Imagine the life of someone who is living with somebody who failed to deliver a promise? Being single, one can control his or her emotions, you can eliminate loneliness by thinking on the positive aspects of being "alone" : stress-free because there are no expectations ; no sleepless nights if your partner did not respond to your text messages or to your call, no anxiety attacks and sulking in depression when the relationship ends...

Of course, I miss the "idea" of being with someone who holds your hand or who texts you with " i love you ; thank you for being around ; let's have dinner!" But, we must admit that it is not always a bed of roses. I can't handle and tolerate misunderstandings that lead to emotional stress anymore that's also the reason why I prefer to be alone and single because I am in-control of my emotions. I am just tired of allowing myself to be emotionally dependent on someone.

Each new day, I am learning to live a full life. I try to find a purpose other than just living for one's self. I try to reach my full potential every day that comes. I try to be as close and as intimate to God, my master. And I am trying my darn best to live my life in His love and service.

As I go on with life, I realize that the more I try to fix things on my own, the more distorted things become. There are days that impatience overwhelms my entire being - waiting does get on to my nerves and sometimes even develops into a crisis of sorts. Singleness poses a lot of questions without answers and gives much more introspection than needed. But the question of the moment is "what do we do with the wait?" or better yet, " how do we handle ourselves while waiting?" Patience! Patience! More Patience!

My realization just gave me one concrete answer: LIVE!

Moments that build up to hours, days, weeks, months and years are precious gifts from God that are meant to be seized for all that they can offer.

I live joyfully, enjoying each moment and not just passing the time;

I live with great hope that good things will come to those who wait;

I live knowing that I am happy and that I will be happily married, (IF) that is God's plan for me.

I live with fresh hopes and do not mope around with the heavy burden of past hurts from a relationship that did not work - - I did my best, God knows!

I live open to new relationships and I do not go around jaded and negative mindset when getting to know new people;

I live with an attitude of gratitude because I am unquestionably thankful for all that has come my way;

I live with a smile on my face and stillness of heart because I am truly at peace with God's love coming from within.

The great grace of waiting comes when we actively live and not just passively wait. When we do this, we forget all about the negative thought associated with waiting because we get so busy living positively. It definitely does not take away the longing, but it sure does enrich and prepare us for whatever the future holds.

Live happy.
Live freely.
Live believing that good things will come our way - -

And then we will surely reap the benefits that come with lives lived in the grace of our God...